Last night I was honored to Judge the semi-final round of the negotiation contest at my alma mater law school. The contest was among 1L’s, who have been in law school for less than 2 months and they handled themselves beautifully. I judged two competitions, and both were very close contests. My thanks to the students at Boston College Law School for inviting me.
I’ve been thinking a lot about negotiation lately, partly in preparation for this competition, partly because I just read Gerald Williams’ great article in the Commercial Law League Magazine on the same subject.
I have always thought of negotiation as more romance than table pounding. It’s easier to make a deal with someone you like, rather than someone you loathe. So from the outset of any case, I actively seek common ground with my “opponent”. Be it the CEO of the company, their talented lawyer, or the guy working part time in accounts payable, I look for something unrelated to banter about. It doesn’t hurt that I’m a news junkie and so more often I just scan my brain for something happening where the other person is located, and we are off and running.
Along the way I’ve found that there are some pretty interesting people out there who owe my clients money. People can tell when you are genuinely interested, and I am. I learn something new from nearly everyone I deal with. It’s one of the best parts of my job.
It’s important to understand my adversary and his business – and in that process I’m often able to create a bond which results in an agreement to work together to find a solution to the problem. That is the beginning of any negotiation; it points both parties in the same direction – that of getting the problem solved, and it is more often than not, a huge leap forward in the process.